Ever heard the adage “misery loves company?”

Well, sadly it is true! When one is commiserating, it is never difficult to find a partner.

“Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure, and separates the victim from reality.” -John Gardner

Have you ever met a Debbie Downer? Someone who no matter what – will see the absolute worst of a situation!

Debbie Downers can totally suck the energy and joy out of any situation . . . if we allow them to.

This week we are going to explore the concept of “Debbie Downers.” Why they exist and what we can do to combat that energy vampire. Perhaps we might even identify when we fall prey to that vampire in our own lives!

We all experience pain and sorrow in our lives. And while sadness is a normal, healthy emotion throughout our journeys, dwelling on that sorrow is not healthy. In fact, it is self-destructive.

Yet sometimes sorrow feels safe.

It can be a defense mechanism. Also, if we feel sorry for ourselves we can delay facing circumstances that bring us to confront our real fears. It buys us time and assists us in avoiding taking responsibility for our own actions. Instead of taking action or moving forward, when we exaggerate how bad our situation is, it justifies why we shouldn’t do anything to improve it!

People also use the self-pity card as a way to get attention because it often results in some kind and gentle words from others. Yet, those kind and gentle words never last because ultimately people get tired of “poor me!”

Do you have any Debbie Downers in your life?

Do you sometimes fall prey to being a Debbie Downer?

Everyone has an opportunity to make a conscious choice to celebrate life’s gifts and refuse to behave in a pitiful manner! May we celebrate today that we have an opportunity to be grateful for what we have!